- 26 Oct 2022 14:28
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@Godstud I have spoken to many women. Both traditional stay at home homemakers, career women with children, and part time workers who are women, single mothers, married mothers, etc.
I think the issue with women is that they wind up with having to do a lot of unpaid work. Especially in the house. Housework with small children is a non-stop situation Godstud. And many women have to work too. They got to drop the kids off at the child care centers and they got to go to work and do that shift, and then put some gas in the car, go to the grocery store or have it delivered via Uber Eats or Blue Apron or whatever. They got to plan dinner, bills, meals, their elderly parents need them, it is endless stuff. And the men can be wonderful helping out.
@Pants-of-dog takes care of children. I think five daughters he mentioned to me once. I hope he corrects me if I am wrong. My own father used to take care of us. He would wake up early and make us breakfast, drive us to school, pick us up, go to graduate school, and then paint his art projects, he was a fantastic painter. He would do laundry and some fast meals. Papi hated cooking, and anything that took more than fifteen minutes he detested. So I ate a lot of vegetarian burritos and cheese, alfalfa sprouts, and avocado sandwiches growing up. Fond memories really. But he used to say, "If I did the housework the way it should be done? Making beds, vacuuming every day, dusting, scrubbing pots and pans, waxing floors and ironing kids' clothing and making a full dinner, and so on every day? No time for anything else. The job of a housewife is a full-time job. No one really pays them anything they rely on their husband for their money. If he is abusive, controlling, or inconsiderate and denies the family the household budget money because he is a drunk, or he is stingy? She is totally dependent on him.
And then there is DV. Domestic violence. Family life is far from ideal for many people Godstud.
It is about power dynamics as well.
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en cada soledad.
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